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I just want to say to all the ladies who always give the advice to "block and delete", that blocking doesn't work anymore. Blocking my ex NEVER worked. Since the invention of apps 10 years ago, like Textnow and Textfree, where you can get an infinite amount of numbers, blocking does not work anymore.
At least not to the most determined of men. My ex would download these apps, and text and call me from a new number all day, everyday. To the point that I had to change my number because that was the only way to make it stop. And blocking him on social media didn't work either. Because he'd open new Gmail accounts, then open new snapchat, Instagram accounts to harass me. And email me from countless emails. Some men are psychotically obsessed, and will use any means necessary to contact you.
Update: To all the ladies commenting that I should call the police, THIS IS NOT HAPPENING PRESENT TIME. I am NOT in an active stalker situation. I was merely giving an EXAMPLE, of how blocking doesn't work because of the availability of apps that give a man an infinite amount of numbers. I wasn't posting this to get advice or sympathy for a relationship that happened from 2015-2021. I was just giving an example of why blocking does not work because of the advancement of technology.
I am loath to go to the cops for obvious reasons, but this requires legal action. This amounts to stalking.
Blocking works, it's just not an instant solution.
There's a chapter in "The Gift of Fear" called Persistance, Persistance that is relevant to this.
One of my ex-boyfriends constantly thought about me for 15 years and then finally he was done or got bored.
It is simply a matter of time, the only action is inaction. It might take years, but they will get the message. There is no other alternative to a stalker than no response. If you reply, it adds another day or week to the time they will pursue you and they may escalate.
Sorry this is happening to you. For your average, low effort man, block and delete is sufficient. For more intense losers, you may have to block and delete a few times. For full on lunatics, it never worked. I've been through this. What worked for me in two cases was contacting their wives. In your case I agree with others that it's time for legal action.
I'm sorry that you are experiencing this :( Please consider involving cops. (Here's a hug)
I am sorry you had to go through this. I do agree that with stalkers and possessive/psycho men blocking doesn’t work. I called the police on one man I dated in the past and they caught him front of my house and gave him a warning. He still contacted me after and now he is in court with more at stricter charges because he violated the cops warning. It just shows that a lot of these men don’t even care about legal consequences especially narcissists and they can find ways to manipulate everything especially the system due to it’s misogynistic beliefs against women. It sucks but I’m sure we all do the best we can. Blocking works for normal LVM/NVM men who will get the message after a while but the possessive ones, we cross our fingers and hope that whatever actions we take will work. Stay safe and keep doing you. It’s not easy being a woman.
And that's when you call the police. Of course men do whatever it takes to get what they want. But we can make them aware of dire consequences if we contact the appropriate authorities to lay down the law on him.
Edit: Real quick but I really want to say I'm sorry this is or has happened to you. I've dealt with stalking before and it's terrifying.
Yeah, you're right - and sometimes blocking can actually make things worse. As can calling the cops. Gavin de Becker in The Gift of Fear has great recommendations for dealing with stalkers - when it's related to stalking on the phone/email, etc, he basically says it's best to do what you did.
Making sure you don't interact with him at all seems to be the best strategy - and blocking, in this case, is interacting, as you're sending him a message of "do not interact."
I've used de Becker's strategy when I dealt with a real-life stalker and was glad to see it working.
As with most FDS advice, it's best to judge for yourself if it's applicable.
My Marc exbf has created so many social media profiles to try and keep track of what I’m (and his other exes) are doing. Sometimes I wonder if he has infiltrated my Fb pg.
Confession: I used to do this.
I can only talk to guys while drunk, even to this day. I'd do a bunch of dumb crap while drunk.
I was so used to guys blocking me and ignoring me that spamming them just became my typical way of talking to guys. It was either spam them and get one response after sending them hundreds of texts, or none at all.
I'm a very invisible woman.
I've stopped now and grown out of it though.