My aunt said to me that guys who grew up with brothers or as an only child are more likely to be Scrotes/LVM. She said they have a harder time then men who grew up with sisters to see women as their equals. Would you say she's correct about that?
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Nope. I've met guys with no brothers and 4 sisters who hated women. Guys can get there regardless of who they grow up with
I think it really depends upon family dynamics, how his father treated his mother, and how his friends are with women. You can't just go on one factor, because there's just so much BS misogyny for them to encounter these days. It's everywhere.
I don’t think so. My brother only had sisters, he’s an absolute ass. My ex had a brilliant, beautiful, hardworking sister; he’s an ass. My husband only has one brother, no sisters, my husband is amazing. Furthermore, the last guy my sister dated bragged that having a sister made him more empathetic. So, they’ve figured out that some women believe this and use it to their advantage. It’s important to stay a step ahead.
This is an interesting question. I have a younger brother and we're fairly close. I feel like guys who grew up with sisters can emphasize more, but it's certainly not true to a significant extent, there are plenty of guys who abuse their sisters, treat them as inferior, and constantly belittle them. I think it's a "case by case" sort of thing.
I had a male colleague who had 5 elder sisters. He had a habit of sexually harassing women openly with words and gestures and pretending those things to be in humour. Hope he suffers a lot of pain. Apart from that I have noticed many men with older or younger sisters who are absolute garbage.
I feel like that differs. They might know how to interact with women better, but also be more resentful of women and blame all their problems on their sisters, i.e., women as a whole
I know lots of scrotes with sister(s). One I was in a relationship with (before I got my shit together) was super bitter about how his sister was treated "better" than him. I knew them both growing up, and yes it's easier to treat someone "better" when they're not off doing stupid shit like having to get his stomach pumped after a night of drinking shots or smoking weed in between classes. He also had a lot more freedom and his romantic life wasn't heavily scrutinized and controlled. No one spent an afternoon making him cry because his family screamed "you spread your legs FOR THEM?!" at him like they did to his sister when they found out she lost her virginity.
I think a lot of men think this way, they have a lot of freedom and privilege but they also act like idiots so people react negatively, and that's considered "worse treatment".
I would be willing to bet that the kind of mom-dad relationship has more weight than having sisters
My abusive and misogynist ex said that he grew up with his grandmother and aunt and sister and that he “understands” how women operate and that he knew how to “deal with” them because his grandma went through menopause during that time and “was going crazy”
note that he said he knows how to ”deal with” women. As though we are a crazy terrible burden for a man to withstand.
He also said he has always taken 40+ minute bathroom breaks and that he had to teach them “how men are” whenever I’d get mad about not being able to use my own bathroom because he liked to camp out in there and probably whack off while smelling his own shit.
he strikes me now in retrospect as someone who was proud of learning early on how to “train” women to deal with his crap.
No. I have two brothers and one sister. According to your theory they should treat me and my sister well and not be LV scrotes, but they both treated us like shit and are absolutely misogynistic. It’s the environment outside. The patriarchy makes them shit even if they have sisters. After all, they all have MOTHERS. Having a sister is no big deal.
I have two bothers and they are both LVM. They truly suck. But my HVM friend has two sisters and a wonderful mom. He is so respectful. My friends husband is an only child and he is phenomenal so is my other friend’s husband who has sisters and brothers. It got nothing to do with that. It’s the man himself.
I think it depends more on which behavior is modeled to them, especially how their mother is treated. For example, if everyone just accepts that Mom cleans up everyone's mess while Dad watches TV, no amount of sisters will be able to "buffer" that (they're probably being roped into the scheme as , picking up their brother's slack). ETA: my first boyfriend was mainly raised by his mom (father abandoned them, step father was not very involved) and had one younger sister. He definitely "got" women and knew what they wanted and felt more than most other men I've known. But it didn't necessarily help. He was not able to be a consistently good partner. In that case it was probably because there was no good father figure to model that. All the female influence didn't somehow make him a better person.