Anyone else feel they’ll be single forever??

Yes. I'm attractive, accomplished, cultured, educated and make okay money, I know I'm a catch and I get asked out all the time, but I still do have that feeling that I will never meet a forever mate. It's not because of ME, but rather: I really do not believe there are many men capable of life long love. Every man I have met (with exception to my father and brothers) are obsessed with using women for sex or money, they don't have morals, they are proud of being exploitative, etc. I just can't imagine with a population this hedonistic, narcissistic and lacking of values that I will find anyone worth making a commitment to. I date basically for my entertainment. I accept an offer when I feel like having a night on the town. We eat, I listen to his life stories, pick his brain, and that's it. It doesn't go further because I don't believe these men have good intentions. I have met far too many liars and abusers to believe any of them anymore.

Years ago, I met up with my ex-husband to catch up (ugh) since we hadn't talked since the divorce several years prior. I remember him asking if I would get married again (not necessarily to him), and I replied "Uhh, no, probably not." I asked him in return, and said "Absolutely!" He was genuinely excited about the prospect of getting married again. I will never, ever forget the stark difference in our responses and our experience of marriage. To this day, my answer would be the same.

I don’t think I’m ever going to be completely free of my brainwashing that I’ll never be happy without a man unless I keep dating to remind myself how bad they are. They have such a good PR team.

i just had this thought myself! I have ADHD so for me things (especially exes) are “out of sight out of mind” but I know that even without the ADHD I actually feel a genuine sense of relief when I’m not dating lol. I’m 20 so all the guys my age (older too) are porn addicted losers who feel entitled to sex and I would rather just be single and happy than deal with that shit again

I had this feeling when I was single. When I genuinely stopped giving a fuck and became absolutely ruthless about vetting men and dropping them at the first sign of disrespect I found love. Some of us are happily partnered but check FDS regularly to remind ourselves of the Queen mindset.

Every like 5 months I’ll get a blip of a thought that’s like “waaaa you’re single” but then I consciously adopt the decision to make being the rich, single, fun, wrinkle-free, stress-free aunt who will spoil her nephews and nieces instead of a man my default state…if a man can add to that then great, but if not, that’s the way to go out 😌

After 20 years of dealing with men's BS I've come to the conclusion that a man's penis is his god. He worships it day and night. He sacrifices innocent women and children to its alter, offering sacrifices of pain and torture as they please their dick-god by watching porn of the suffering of women and girls. They want to please it with sex but get angry if a woman gets pregnant from their actions and yell "I'm not ready to be a father, get rid of it!" then complain about women being selfish about abortions.

Once you realize a man's own penis is his god he's desperate to serve and sacrifice you to, that he's willing to destroy the lives of women and children to it, their actions make a lot more sense.

If I met a man who wouldn't convince me that he's LVM in a few minutes, that would be great. I talked to a guy who seemed decent, then bang, I saw his phone screen that was some sexualized anime girl.

Yes. I have very high standards and I’m not going to change them for any man. Many men cannot complete these standards. I think I’ve only ever met one high value man, but things didn’t work out between us. Men like that are very hard to come by especially these days. I have a lot of stuff to work on and a lot of healing to do due to certain circumstances in my life so it’s better for me to stay single regardless

hey im 20, no kids and i feel the exact same way. i plan on being child free so yeah.

I hear you all! What keeps me going is what I heard on a FDS podcasts (can’t remember which one) that as women we usually out live men and we’ll be alone anyway. Also we won’t have to nurse a man when he’s old, wiping his arse urgh!! No thanks! Plus I heard somewhere else that a coffin only has room for one for a reason 😆

My dad is a gem and met his gem of a wife at 62. She is also his age. Never lose hope, it's never too late. Probably best to wait until the kids are older and out of the house.

As a 22 year old woman who is a few months out of a 7 month relationship with the right person, but was the wrong time I feel like I’m not gonna be single forever, but it’s gonna take years for me to find another guy who could match or beat my last relationship. I’d say if you’re traumatized it’s best to keep your peace and focus on yourself and your children. Take time to heal, make new friends, get a better job, and really enjoy life. You don’t need a man to have a good life.

Yep, I’m 26 and ALL my experiences with men have been awful but even with these bad experiences I’m always juggling between two states of mind:

- That I’ll be single and alone forever and unhappy since I don’t have a man in my life.

- HECK YEAHHHHH I'll always be single and more money for meeeee

Yes. 🥲

Wherein*