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I’ve been seeing a guy who I unfortunately don’t really find physically attractive, but I get along with great. We share the same taste in music and culture, share a similar humor and can hold conversations about interesting things, so I’ve been giving it a chance. Last time I saw him it was a blast. At the end of the night we were kissing outside and saying bye. He was trying to make out harder and even mentioned wanting to have a night together. I told him goodnight and he got all pouty and walked away seemingly cold. I even acknowledged how much fun I had. This really turned me off and after reading another post here, it alarms me to the level of entitlement people think they have over our bodies. your sexual frustrations are not my responsibility just because we’re being romantic and hangin, bro. Im feeling like I have to end it. 1. because I’m not physically attracted and 2. because hes pushing my sexual boundaries with entitlement.
What do y’all think? I have a really hard time breaking things off and over think it too much because I feel bad. any advice on parting words that are scotch free? I also think from his perspective it’s going to seemingly be coming from out of nowhere and I’m really not trying to explain myself. I have also been seeing this person about once a week for like 6 weeks and texting regularly. Should this be in person or can I get away with just a text? I also want to be cordial and end it positively.
Do not settle for someone you don't find attractive. And his acting entitled and bratty after you asserted a boundary marks him clearly as a LVM. You'd think that guys who aren't very attractive would be grateful for the attention and treat you better than the hot ones, right? But it usually isn't so. What happens is your attention inflates the ugly scrote's ego and makes him wildly overestimate his market value while lowering his respect for you. He'll assume there is something wrong with you if you're willing to date someone like him.
End it now and find a guy who ticks all your boxes and also respects your right to set the pace of physical intimacy in the relationship.
Dating uglies isn’t worth it, they dont treat you better then the next guy. They will just be insecure because they know you’re out of their league
Don't you think you deserve to be physically attracted to your partner?
Hon, you know what to do. He doesn't seem like the one for you, you deserve someone who won't resent your boundaries, and you also deserve someone you find attractive.
Yes you should end it. He sounds like he is entitled and plus you aren't even attracted to him. You deserve someone who is attractive, all women do! Now that you rejected his advances, if you continue to see him he is only going to get more and more whiny and pushy about sex. Just end it. Spare yourself the future headaches. You don't need an uggo begging you for sex lmao.
I would suggest sending him a text letting him know that you are going to move on. 6 weeks isn't worth meeting in person to break up. Remember that he is a scrote and you are a queen. You should never be inconveniencing yourself to make a man more comfortable. Good luck! 💜
Don’t confuse conversational intimacy with physical intimacy. One cannot replace the other. You will end up feeling lonely in this relationship
You’re not sexually attracted to him? End it.
If there's no physical attraction or spark, it's just better off to stay friends. Not with this guy tho, he's going to hate you for "friend zoning" him and never respect you, so u should also block him too. It's only been 6 weeks, there's 0 need to do this in person. He's lucky that you're not ghosting him for crossing your physical boundaries and being a prick about it. Actually just block him right now lol. He was probably just mirroring you to get in your pants. I'm extremely wary of men that agree and like everything I do. Tbh if he wasn't pushy, I would've texted "hey its nice hanging out with you, but I'm not into you romantically". But dickheads don't deserve kindness and human decency so 🤷🏾♀️
The pouting like a baby is a big red flag. You know what to do sis.
You deserve a man who you find physically and sexually attractive. And who is authentic, respectful, and patient. Just be glad you have the chance to dump him before you made the mistake of having sex with him.
Men don't date women they don't find attractive, and neither should you.
If he’s acting entitled and pressuring you I don’t think it’s very safe to break up in person.
You were giving him a chance. He doesn't know you. Your dating so it's was more like no for now let's see how it goes. But already at the first instance of you exerting your very good and rational boundaries he's acting like a child. You know how children get when you say no to sweets? They act like they'll never have sweets again in their life. It's not that big of deal, so many guys need to stop being so sex obsessed. Even if he was an accomplished lover his aesthetic doesn't motivate you in that way. I personally wouldn't settle on looks unless there was a big payout attached and he was giving me full access to it. And I doubt this guy, like most of us, has it like that. And he's STILL acting entitled. It feels like you may have oneitis and therefore have fallen into a scarcity mindset. D is ubiquitous and comes in many shapes and forms. If you're not ready to detatch. Aim to start dating one or two other people that you are defo attracted to and see you how you feel about him after. I think your feelings will wane. Good luck
You don't owe him anything. Think about it. He feels superior and entitled to you. I wouldn't even text. I'd vanish forever. If you work with him etc don't deal with him and ask to be put on another team or move job. Life is not meant to be filled with crap. It's too short.