Am I wrong to think that bisexual men are a red flag?

You're not wrong at all, your body your choice. I have a long list of demographics that I generally stay away from when it comes to my love life. Idc if they think it's racist, xenophobic, ageist, astrologist, etc. These boundaries are based off of my actual experiences, growing up around these cultures, and confirmation from the women themselves. It's not like I'm blindly following stereotypes. I do feel bad for bi men, because they seem to be ostracized by the LGBT community too. But I don't like how quick everybody is to call straight women biphobic, when gay men and transwomen are extremely vocal/men about how they want nothing to do with bi men. I've heard many of them say that they prefer a straight man over a bi man, and nobody ever calls them out on it

No you're not. Straight men ALONE are enough pain in the ass. Bisexual men are a double trouble... because you don't only have to look out for other women, but now you have to look for for other men too! We always say straight men can never be friends with women...but what about bisexual men? They can never be friends with neither 🤣 heck even the guys night out will have a different meaning.. With bi dudes you have to deal with double competition...double options for him, double competition for you.

you will also fear for your health, since we all know that the STDs/HIV that women contract are mostly coming from bi dudes...and even if he was celibate and not a fucking slut, you will still have to keep in mind that bisexual men will ALWAYS have that Itch that no woman can scratch and I don't think any straight woman wants to deal with that shit...you can call me insecure or BiPhObE or whatever stupid coercive shit that people use to pressure women into dating bi dudes (which is another problem that needs to be discussed) I like to keep my health and my peace of mind Intact.

I knew a friend who had been in a relationship with a man for 7 years. (Forever girlfriend). She also got proposed to with a candy ring. This set the stage for what was about to come. Well during the 6th year of their relationship, he went on a dating website and found a man to be intimate with. He did not let my friend know. She found out and instead of leaving she said to me “well I knew he was bi so I decided that it was ok.” girl what. So that continues on the side for two years. They are now MARRIED and the side piece is living with them. Not only that, she got roped into being in a poly relationship. She told me she has jealousy issues and has trouble with it sometimes. She does all the cooking and cleaning and on top of that is the only one working between her husband and her. She is completely stuck. Whenever I went out with them it was clear the husband only had eyes for the man he went on a dating site specifically for.

This is not to say all bi men are like that! but it left a sour taste in my mouth.

I have a simple piece of advice that has carried me far: “if it’s not a fuck YES, it’s a no.” Use that as you will.

I think you're entitled to your standards. The list of reasons for the red flag are things you don't want to deal with in a relationship and shouldn't have to. Best way to respond to an openly bi man is say, "that's nice" and move on. Personally? I got all of the weird sexy stuff out of my system when I was younger. I was more open minded about topping men and dating bi men. Nowadays, I'm married to a very straight man and I'm constantly relieved when I read stories about women finding out their partners cheat on them with men/push for poly/want extra people in the bed. Been there, done that, it stops being fun after a while.

I agree with your concerns. Isn't there statistical data backing up that men that partake in homosexual sex at a higher risk for STDs and HIV transmission?

Personally, I would not participate in a relationship with a bisexual man for that reason. I place high value about the quality of my sex life.

If bi men are real, ok. You don't have to date them. I personally would never date a man who is attracted to other men. I don't have to explain anything to anyone and neither do you.

gosh, I had my last breakup a year ago and had not been on reddit since then. my last ex was blocked everywhere else.

I made the dumb mistake of not simply deleting his reddit profile today. I looked at it first-which I had never done before in detail because the top was a ton of gaming stuff.

Below that was a series of posts, dated from all 4 of the years he was with me. first him seeking women for hookups. After several pleas and looks like he got a bit of luck there but not much, his posts began looking for men(at that, men 8-10 years younger than him) and it looks like he had a lot of hookups with those men from the replies.

I'm disgusted. I knew he watched porn and I knew he had inappropriate convos with other women, but only now way after the fact do I know for sure he cheated on me physically at the time. And that he was way more promiscuous than I had thought. He had never mentioned being bi either. This was supposedly even during the most "loving" part of our relationship too. I did not even know this man at all.

Anyway his posts read as him not getting enough attention from women and then moving on to men because the hookups were easier.

I know I shouldn't care because it was in the past but it makes me feel dirtier for having been with him, and dumb because I had no idea what he had going on back then. Don't worry-I blocked him on reddit of course. Should not have given into my curiosity today.

I would say yes for now I would definitely avoid bi men if I was sexually active what with monkeypox being spread among mainly men now. And for the points you have mentioned(having to worry about his male friends; him increasing his chances for a quick impulsive hookup as men are more promiscuous in general)

And being less concerned about their health. think of how many men want to go without condoms and it's the woman who insists that they do wear one. What do you think often happens with two men.

Do not ever let anyone make you feel "wrong" about your boundaries. That's called standard shaming, and FDSers do not stand for it.

Unfortunately, I don't have statistics on whether or not bisexual men cheat more or have more STDs than heterosexual men do. But it doesn't matter to me, nor should it matter to you. If you don't like the idea of dating a bisexual man, don't do it. You are not wrong, you are not unreasonable. Bisexual men do not gain access to your body for the sake of politically correct inclusivity. Neither do trans "men", homeless men, convicts, drug addicts, you get the idea.

I would personally avoid dating a man who identifies as bisexual because I just don't like the idea of him hooking up with another man. That's my preference, and I don't have to justify it to anyone. Neither do you.

Im older and maybe that is why I find it repulsive. I could never be attracted to a man who wanted another mans genitals inside him. I like a strong hetero man. I do not care if a man is gay or bi or whatever they want to do, I believe that is fine, but not for me or anyone I would want to have a relationship with. I wouldnt be sexually interested in a Bi man.

I'm a bi woman and I think this is biphobic. Most of these are harmful stereotypes that are also used by straight men against bi women. Bi men, straight men, gay men, they're all the same. They're all men. It's not that men of one sexuality are worse than the others, they're all equally bad. It's fine to not date bi men, however. I am not saying you have to date them, just that these aren't very good reasons. If they just give you the ick that's fair, no need to try justifying it.