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I am moving cities in September and still trying to secure a place (the market there is really bad/tough for renters, particularily if one's budget is on the lower side. You're lucky to even hear back from 1/20 inquiries sent on ads/listings. I responded to a listing on FB, and the guy who posted it (i guess on behalf of the landlord/building manager etc.) responded back with this (below). Well I do at least appreciate his response- am I wrong for thinking it's kinda rude/crazy of him to be asking a random FB chick to help HIM out to find housing? Let alone thinking a random woman would even be likely to consider having a random guy like him as a roommate?
I know some women out there are cool with male roommates (and tbh I wouldn't be entirely against it if there were multiple people living in the home and it was a good/even mix of girls and guys), but for him to assume I would jump at the opportuntity to help him out/be his roommate is honestly a level of audacity that still shocks me (even knowing how delousional men are in today's world). Anyways, I know this is kinda petty but what do y'all think?
It could just be that guys don't look out for dangers the way we do. It wouldn't be a problem for him to room with someone of the opposite sex, so he has a blindspot about how it could be a problem for a woman.
It's like that time I was parting ways with some guys I know after a late night event. I was telling them which way I'm heading, and they were like "why wouldn't you go the shorter way?" I told them it's too dangerous. They were so confused "What? How is it dangerous?" It didn't even occur to them maybe I want to avoid walking through a red light district alone late at night.
Every woman understands caution, but guys can afford to be stupid about it, so most guys let themselves be that stupid. 😆
This is predatory as fuck. Housing sucks right now but please avoid anything advertised on Facebook or social media. Legit property companies, while also usually shady, will not advertise that way, and are less likely to murder you. This guy is probably already stalking you now.
Wtf?! Lol
Something is not mathing. If he’s not the landlord, why is he reaching out ? Was he pretending to be the landlord?
Also, nawww fuck him! Lol
This reminds me a bit of the recent post about the homeless man asking the random woman on the street what he should do without a place to sleep that night! Men not having secure housing is none of our problem and it’s bizarre and inappropriate to act as if we should help them.
Good luck finding a great apartment in the new city, living alone or with only female roommates!!
I don't think you're wrong, OP. Even if he's just being obtuse, it's off-putting (men are so clueless about the everyday dangers women face). But on top of that, there's such a difference in tone between your message and his. Yours is professional, with just the right amount of engagement; his is informal and a little intrusive and wierd. Plus I second what someone else said -- why is he even the one handling this? He was going to sublet a room in his place but the landlord had other plans -- did the LL even know about this guy's plans? The whole thing seems off. I'm glad your radar is in prime condition to spot this sort of thing!
HEY COVER UP THE PART ABOUT _____ ROoomates and housing!
Men consider women a magical interchangeable way to get 50% off rent.
Check out hotpads if you haven't already. Landlord's respond quick on there despite whatever town I'm in.
Also that's weird how he plans on using you? Lmao. No regard to your situation at all, just men looking for another easy way out of something