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So…for the past 4yrs I’ve been going through a career change. I support vulnerable adults and also working my way through academia to be a mental health nurse. I have 2 adult children and a 10yr old. I’ve noticed when I’m asked what I do for a living and how many kids I have. Men back off!
I dont get it! I’m ambitious and working towards my goals and my children are older. Surely these are bonuses?! Im trying not to let this decrease my value or self esteem but it’s really frustrating to think my life is amazing and I’m really the happiest I’ve ever been but men do not appreciate that. Shit! I wonder If it would be any different if I said i was a stay at home mother with 3 young children lol!
Honestly, maybe I'm a little more on the spiritual side, but it is great that men who are not at your level are literally being removed by the universe almost automatically, which is a great thing! Removing the wrong men makes space for the right man in your life :) Keep going Queen you GOT THIS!
The sad truth is that most men are turds. That's just how it is. Men are raised to be narcissistic, self-involved, entitled. Some are charming, some are handsome, some are smart, many are dumb.
When you evaluate men's reactions to anything keep this in mind. An extreme example: Omar Mateen (Pulse nightclub shooter) and you matchup on some dating app, you go to dinner and tell him about your kids and he gets turned off. Like you should care?
It takes work and persistence to find an HVM to simply date or to get into a relationship.
You are doing great and are perfect unto yourself. These creeps are doing you a favor - actually now that you've seen their reaction you can use this as part of your vetting procedure.
Why are you sad about this? It’s better for you and your kids. Glad they are being removed from your life right away. Rejection is protection. Never forget that
It's literally not you're problem. It's men's problem. If a woman is a boss, they call her too overbearing. Or they don't like that she's earning more than him. If a woman is the other end of the scale and quite / submissive, they say she's easy and get bored find a new toy to play with and give her infections while he's cheating secretly. If a woman defends herself, men call her too confrontational. The list and labels can go on. Maybe he doesn't want to date a woman with kids. Some women don't want kids and don't want to date men with kids but fuk it, it's ok for them to say but if a woman sets her needs wants boundaries etc in relationship, men say how dare she! My dear, you are whole enough and loved by your kids and family. You don't need his sht behaviour in your life. You can get your answer of why by testing your profile with different men's reactions. It will become clear pretty fast if his relationship needs are not compatible or he's just being a dik!
This is honestly my goal. To level up and have so much going on and successful that losers just yeet themselves from my life, because they know they can't compete 🥲. Be grateful for this blessing lmao
If you want to be an easy mommymcbangmaid for the majority of men, then quit your job :)