Am I a lecherous pervert?

Its normal.

If you aren't victimizing them, and you probably aren't because you're female, then you aren't lecherous or a pervert.

I'm 30, and honestly, I think men physically peak mid twenties. The men I know my own age just simply aren't as attractive. :/

Well, it makes sense to find younger men more attractive physically. It's because they are :) Some people in the comments can't seem to read and think you are actually pursuing college-aged men, which is not what you are saying in your post. The reading comprehension here has reached Reddit-level.

(Also, fwiw, men in their 20s do have sex with older women, usually for hobosexual reasons, but I am aware of a few "relationships" between much younger men and older women where it is purely for physical reasons--women are typically at their sexual prime in their 40s, so the physical match is ideal. As long as everyone involved is an adult, I say do as you please.)

Polly you should really re consider your language here. You haven't done anything physically with anyone. When we have millions of actual perverted dangerous men on this planet, this pales in comparison, and shouldn't even be described as such. Women typically don't have the instinct to harm others, and would be much more careful about dating someone younger than any man would. We still have a major Child Bride problem in many countires including western ones, so I think we should all agree that finding men in their 20's hot is not an issue at all. Zero.

Their sperm is of higher quality so it’s just biology at work! Take that, scrotes, biology goes both ways 😏

There are countless relationships and marriages between younger men and older women. They are not as rare as you think and totally normal once both are over 25 at least when the frontal lobe is fully developed and they can make good decisions. It's something we should normalize more of.

I can't believe some of the responses you're getting here. You are certainly not a lecherous pervert by any stretch. This is totally normal especially with how poorly men age and how little care they take of themselves. Responses commenting on how if the situations were reversed it'd be completely problematic are insane. Yes, of course it would be, but as we know and as is a fundamental tenet of FDS, our behavior is not the same as men's and cannot and should not be equated; we cannot projecting our level of empathy and character onto them nor our standing in society, nor equate the power dynamics at play, etc. If you were acting even a fraction as gross and intrusive towards these men as older men do towards younger women, then yes it might be a bit problematic, but I'm certain you're not doing that. Just you asking this question and being concerned about it shows a level of self awareness that's worlds above that of most men. And even if you were somehow being that way, it wouldn't be cool but STILL wouldn't even be as big an issue as the reverse because as we know, we are no physical threat to men, we are not predators of men, men do not have to go through life being constantly objectified. It's not the same.

You don't have to be so hard on yourself or snap out of anything, tbh. It sounds like all you're doing is fantasizing about these men because they're hot. That's normal. You recognize that they're not relationship material for you which is correct and reasonable. You're good!

Liking what you see ain't a crime! The phrase, "you can look but you can't touch" exists for a reason. The reason men are considered lecherous perverts is bc they grope women, stare at them creepily, and don't listen when the women tell them to fuck off. If you're not sexually harassing these dudes then you're fine. While staring can be creepy, admiring someone and checking them out when they're not looking is polite. When they can see you it's best to make sure you're not looking at them for more than 2 seconds at a time unless you're chatting. Anymore and that's kinda gross. If you're just admiring from a distance there's no harm done, but I wouldn't really expect your fantasy to become a reality.

Your attraction makes sense since men's physical peak is their mid 20's, that's when they're the hottest and it's all downhill from there. I'm 23 and find myself ogling the althetes around me, too. Imo there's no harm in looking and I love watching a juicy gym bro walk away, especially when he's wearing form fitting jeans. 🤤 We have a new guy at work and built like Adonis. Total hunk. He's so sexy I am always admiring him and his body. I feel confident enough to call him Hunk-ules to his face 😆 and flirt cuz he's around my age and single, but it would def be creepy to do the same since you're about the same age as his mother. There's no shame in a little flirting with younger men because flirting is fun and harmless. However, I agree with the other women on here that young men don't tend to go for older women to find a lifelong partner the same way young women don't go for older men to find a lifelong partner. The relationship is inherently off balance and predatory. Beyond sexual appeal, these young men have zero to offer you.

That being said, don't give up! Some of the hottest men, like Brad Pitt, still looked good in their 30's and 40's. There are men who are hot beyond their youth but they are definitely going to be the one's staying fit and active, eating healthy, and getting enough sleep. If you're in those health groups it might be a good idea to branch out into more of them so you'll find yourself a more age appropriate hunk. Just for reference Brad Pitt was like 38 when he made this movie. Not all men age like milk, so definitely don't give up hope! Especially since a little bit of an age gap at your age probably makes more sense as you being mid-40's are living a life pretty similar to a guy who's like 38+.

There's nothing to be ashamed about.

Some women find older men attractive. Some women find younger men attractive. We can't control who we're attracted to, and we shouldn't try, because it won't work anyway.

Just keep in mind, as you have, that most men (younger, age-appropriate, and older) are scrotes, and don't let any demographic take advantage of you just because you're more naturally attracted to them.

P.S. As a late-30s woman, I can agree that most men my age and older are hideous. In my current city, they're either overweight (from never exercising) or underweight (from drug addiction). It's horrendous.

Yes, I know exactly what you're talking about.

I’m not sure. Personally for me, I’m attracted to men around my age. I do find it a bit odd that everyone on here is saying it’s normal. If this was the other way around (i.e. a guy commenting about being attracted to women half his age) it absolutely would NOT fly or be okay. I am also of the opinion that people don't "peak" at a certain age. Everybody is different, honestly. But that’s just my opinion. And I’m sure the downvotes will ensue….

Maybe this should have stayed in the drafts? 🙊 Stay away from young people dirty old man Polly.

I feel motherly towards men who are half my age.

This post was probably written by a man.