... what do you do? Say you were chatting with a guy and falls asleep and doesnt message you for hours or until the next morning, what should you? Neither saying its fine and continuing the chat OR letting him you know youre annoyed(because then it shows you were hanging on to his texts kind of?) seems right, so what would you recommend? I used to have a long distance boyfriend who always used to fall asleep mid-text and I hated it, it felt so disrespectful and made me feel like he wasnt that into me or talking to me(which he probably wasnt). What do you?
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We are busy women and our time is valuable. When dating, don’t have a texting conversation with a man in the first place. Texting is for making plans and sending time-sensitive updates.
When you’re in a relationship, texting can also be for checking in about how your day is going, maybe 2-3 times per day, max.
All other situations, just live your life, and schedule a date, phone call, or video chat for when you’re both available. Anything else is disrespectful of your time and a waste of your attention.
To specifically answer your question, he should have politely texted “It was wonderful chatting with you! I’m going to bed, goodnight and I love you!” Just ghosting in the middle of your conversation is rude/lazy/suspicious and you already know that.
Do? Do nothing. All-night text conversations are a waste of a woman's time, which is why HVW don't participate in them. It's also very childish to feel the need to keep talking over the need for sleep, and getting angry at someone for actually falling asleep instead of continuing a text marathon.
Texting is dangerous because it can be used to hijack our dopamine supply and manipulate us. When I start dating again I'm going to refuse to "friend" him on socials or text. When he's ready to be Facebook official I'll add him, but I'll still insist on calls over texts unless absolutely necessary.
What time was it? I have a strict bedtime and I don't answer after 9pm. I'd use it to check if his sleep schedule matches mine (I do NOT enjoy dating men who barely sleep)
Is he going to bed crazy early that makes me suspicious of his evening plans? Is he waking up at a reasonable hour given when he 'went to bed'? Did the convo keep me up and anxious for my own bedtime? Maybe I don't like talking to him that much if I can't wind down
One of the most valuable posts imo
https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com/forum/ruthless-strategy/handbook-posts-texting-like-a-queen