I utterly DESPISE familiarities. I grew up as a child here in the Deep South hating them and pushed back my whole life. I corrected adult men who tried it with me. I can also state that I completely dislike it when men over-use my name; it’s trying too hard. All of it shows me they aren’t socially competent, don’t talk to many women, and don’t know how to tread a path between over-familiar and over-formal.
Yup! There’s one creeper in my gym who tries to talk to ladies and I feel bad for the ones who are too nice and get trapped into conversations with him. I wear my headphones and put on my best bitchy face. no eye contact with anyone. and im happy he has not bothered me yet
What’s weird to me about how Northeasterners talk (not annoying just different) is how you talk to someone in third person while talking to them aka “How is Pusskat1 doing?” not just “How are you doing?” Regional difference.
Cue deep silence when I tell them their game. I tell men no one gets close instantly. It takes time and effort to become familiar and even then, I still hate familiarities. I believe using familiarities is a type of love-bombing that’s a sneaky, lazy way to get closer to getting sex, to be “charming” (it’s soooo NOT) and avoid putting in time and effort.
I would refrain from telling them their game. No need to give them advice on how to manipulate you (or another woman) in a better way.
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A man in his 60s approached me one time. I was working. What he chose as his pick up line threw me for a loop. After pretending to care about my job for a bit, he actually had the nerve to say, "I don't like dating women my age. Women my age aren't attractive. I wanted to take you out. You're very attractive. Let me get your number and I'll take you out to dinner." LiKE WHAT!?!?!?!??!!! I asked him if he'd ever been married, and he said no. So I said, "So, you are 66 yrs old, and never been married??? What do you think that tells me about YOU? NO, you can't have my number. But you are right about one thing. Men your age aren't attractive to me either." ROFL, he walked away with his tail tucked between his legs!!
So true, although my sketchy ex was the epitome of good manners, eloquent and polite (outside of the bedroom) but I am now thinking if I had followed FDS rules, that polite mask would eventually have slipped...
100% agree. There is nothing grosser than a stranger on the internet sending a message like this. I call them online cat calls and they are so disrespectful. I immediately delete these guys from my feed.
Well alot of men start respectfully but the mask does eventually slip. If you talking about those men who send you " Hey you . You look so hot " oh that's an unmatch no thinking there
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Approach you? It’s rare that men approach me and the few that do are usually the over-confident players. Does anyone else have this problem?
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OH, he was definitely an over confident player for sure. But well past his prime. All he'd done was play all his life, never settled down, only judged women superficially by their looks, and now he's a sad old man, still trying the same tricks, but they don't work anymore, cause he's old, and there's a new generation of intelligent women walking around here.
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Wow, that’s such a pathetic life! I always look down on older men who try it on with young women. If they’re like 60+ on a late Saturday night in the bar/club alone woman hunting, I think eww sad.
This article should explain it. Warning, long: https://amp-theguardian-com.cdn.ampproject.org/v/s/amp.theguardian.com/technology/2016/apr/14/the-red-pill-reddit-modern-misogyny-manosphere-men?amp_gsa=1&_js_v=a9&usqp=mq331AQKKAFQArABIIACAw%3D%3D#amp_tf=From%20%251%24s&aoh=16664987340551&referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com&share=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.theguardian.com%2Ftechnology%2F2016%2Fapr%2F14%2Fthe-red-pill-reddit-modern-misogyny-manosphere-men
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I utterly DESPISE familiarities. I grew up as a child here in the Deep South hating them and pushed back my whole life. I corrected adult men who tried it with me. I can also state that I completely dislike it when men over-use my name; it’s trying too hard. All of it shows me they aren’t socially competent, don’t talk to many women, and don’t know how to tread a path between over-familiar and over-formal.
Yup, and how he thinks he can treat you as men are always testing boundaries 🙄
Yes but he very cautious. Some men who are respectful at the beginning are doing that to love bomb you .. be on high alert and vet vet vet
A man in his 60s approached me one time. I was working. What he chose as his pick up line threw me for a loop. After pretending to care about my job for a bit, he actually had the nerve to say, "I don't like dating women my age. Women my age aren't attractive. I wanted to take you out. You're very attractive. Let me get your number and I'll take you out to dinner." LiKE WHAT!?!?!?!??!!! I asked him if he'd ever been married, and he said no. So I said, "So, you are 66 yrs old, and never been married??? What do you think that tells me about YOU? NO, you can't have my number. But you are right about one thing. Men your age aren't attractive to me either." ROFL, he walked away with his tail tucked between his legs!!
So true, although my sketchy ex was the epitome of good manners, eloquent and polite (outside of the bedroom) but I am now thinking if I had followed FDS rules, that polite mask would eventually have slipped...
100% agree. There is nothing grosser than a stranger on the internet sending a message like this. I call them online cat calls and they are so disrespectful. I immediately delete these guys from my feed.
Well alot of men start respectfully but the mask does eventually slip. If you talking about those men who send you " Hey you . You look so hot " oh that's an unmatch no thinking there
Approach you? It’s rare that men approach me and the few that do are usually the over-confident players. Does anyone else have this problem?
There's something in Red Pill called s*** test. It's basically disrespect to see if he can escalate abuse