10 year age gap?

Nope. He’s a loser. While it’s good he’s dating women around his own age now, I’d never be able to take that guy seriously cuz he has terrible judgement and poor decision making skills. Also, it’s incredibly predatory behavior. No hvm would date a woman that much younger than him. Trust your gut and dump him sis. Also, red flags don’t mean caution, red flags mean dump him and RUN away.

In my experience, older men who date younger women are always extremely immature and have many red flags. The men I have dated (who are in their 30s and I am in my early 20s) completely distorted my previous view regarding the idea that older men behave maturely in relationships. I remember both times when I questioned them on why they go for younger women they said because they feel like they're still in their 20s (aka no stable income, attracted to temporary situationships or getting drunk and having casual sex instead of being loyal to one partner)

I’d question it too. I’m 23 now and I feel like all the older men I’ve dated targeted me because they found me naive. Thank goodness I found fds

I personally think this is a big red flag. In your early 20s you are just entering adulthood. In your 30s you have already lived at least a DECADE as an adult. You had the chance to establish your adult life, how is a 22 y.o. going to fit in that? Someone who might still be in college. What would they even talk about? Classes?? Not to mention the usual power imbalance. I have been there, regardless of how strong and wise and smart you are, he will always use the "you are too young to understand" excuse to make you doubt yourself even if you know he is using it out of insecurity. Even if not, if your partner is too young to "get" things, they shouldn't be your partner.

People surely can change and not all age gap relationships are bad but are you willing to put time and effort into this man just to see if he changed?

Also dont fall for the nonsense of men prefer younger women for this or that reason, all of it is bullshit. They want a young woman just to manipulate her, that's literally it.

10 yr difference is an automatic no, especially when one of you are still in their 20s. Now I’ve heard when you age up (like in your 40s for example) the age gap is less of a big deal. But any 30 year old who likes to hang out and date women in their 20s (especially early 20s) is a weirdo and should be treated as such. There’s something wrong with him if he couldn’t cut it with women his own age, and it may not be immediately obvious, but time will tell. Thankfully here on FDS we don’t believe in women wasting their time to see just how wrong a man is. The red flag is there. Acknowledge it, then block and delete. And avoid 30+ year old dudes for the foreseeable future.

Thanks Queens. I have unmatched.

I’m 33 and was seeing someone who was 10 years older than me (same age gap with my ex-husband). Honestly they are both immature, childish and porn sick. 🤢🤢

big red flag

If it's a red flag to you do not ignore it. Move on to other age range appropriate men.

I see another red flag here. Why do you know this information? He is pretending to be transparent but gives me "trauma bond"/"honest guy" vibe.

There is no need to discuss past relationships- at all and especially not this early on in courtship. It sucks that it is normalized to discuss past relationships with potential romantic partners.

Discussing past relationships only demonstrates the meaning we have made of a past relationships and the very biased version of our events to a new partner. I suspect he told you this so that you would "give him points" for his honesty and for you to subconsciously feel grateful that he would pick you over what society tells women is a "more valuable" woman. It kind of worked because you did give him points and consider him. But also kudos to you for doing a gut check and coming here for the FDS wake up call.

Did he tell you or something, if so he might be trying to neg you??